This blog post is dedicated to all the haters out there, disbelievers, bullies and judgers.
Throughout life you will always find people “judging” you as a person, whether its what you wear what you eat or in general just how you look. This is something I have battled with my whole life. However now I have come to realise that haters gonna hate.
Growing up ginger and freckly wasn’t easy and some of you who are reading this are probably wondering why, but unless you are a ginger person then you just won’t understand. Being ginger means you aren’t normal, you don’t fit into the perfect box of every other kid on the block, you’re different. If you are also the unlucky ginger who only has to look at the sun to become one big freckle, like I am then this makes you doubly unordinary.
Kids are cruel, kids are mean, at school if you don’t look the same as the rest, then they will treat you different. This doesn’t just count for gingers of course this can count for any kids that aren’t “ordinary”. Personally I think that the “cruel kid” never leaves people and as we grow and get older people still expect you to fit into the “normal” persona.
Once I was old enough to change my hair and start wearing makeup I instantly became more popular, I started to fit into the box, but I didn’t feel myself. I didn’t want to be this normal person that blended into the crowd, even though all my life up until that point it was all I dreamed of being. I wanted to be different I wanted to be unique, but I didn’t want to be bullied for being unordinary.
I knew I didn’t want to go back to my natural ginger hair, I wanted more, I wanted to be unique for me. I wanted to be the fashionista I knew I could be.
My style grew every day, my hair colours changed monthly and so did my friends, but this was something I accepted. I was different I was always that girl who wore that crazy skirt that everyone spoke about, but I didn’t care. I was happy to be who I wanted to be. In fact, for me the more out there I was the better I felt … I never wanted to be that box person, I never wanted to do what everyone else done, I strived to be unique.
Many people in life just want to fit in and follow the crowd, do the cool thing, won’t come out of their shell because it’s easier to be the same as everyone else.
People who love you for you move with you they don’t drag you down, they don’t hate. I can now count my friends on one hand, but it’s the best hand in the world. It’s real.
With being unique comes with pros and cons
- You are your own person
- You can be your self 100%
- People remember you, whether they like you or not
- It grows inner confidence
- You have your own purpose
- Once you find your real friends they are forever
- It can be lonely, some people won’t like you due to not fitting into the box
- Friends change like the wind
- People will forever judge you
- People will TALK about you and not always nice things
- People will probably start rumours about you just to bring you down
- They will talk about you indirectly
Although there is pro and cons to being who you want to be trust me living a life for other people is much worse. Why should we fit into what other people say?
There is no rule book, no one has written a book and said girls at the age of sixteen should all be wearing jeans, a crop top and trainers, be on Instagram, but don’t dare to hashtag as people who hashtag are losers. If you want to be that girl with the crazy hair, awesome flowery trousers and use thirty hashtags then you be that girl! You jump right out of that box. Being inside the box is lonelier than outside of it. It’s a big world outside the box don’t get trapped.
The people that are judging and hating on you aren’t worth your time, your breath, your head space and defiantly not your tears. These kinda people will fade away into the distance. One day they won’t affect your life one bit, you won’t even be thinking about them. But I can guarantee you they will be your number one stalker on Instagram still hating on everything you are doing, and this is simply because they are jealous. They are stuck in the box with the same boxy people going nowhere while you are flying high.
always remember to sparkle,
oh so Megan Murray x